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How do you explain death to children?

Cristofer has been worrying about dying. It has been something he has fretted about before, but this last weekend we attended the funeral of a friend and it caused him to worry about it again. I did not realize it had bothered him. He didn’t even say anything, but as the week went by he became increasingly agitated. He also has a cold and wasn’t feeling well and then he ended up with a substitute teacher on Friday. Poor kid, he was pretty stressed.

His biggest concern seemed to be that he didn’t want to die because then he would never see anyone again. I told him that I believe that someday we will all be together again in heaven. He listened but didn’t comment. I hope just talking about it helped a little bit. What would you say?

At this time Matt and I believe we are dealing with this disorder in our 6 year old son. We have felt concern since he was 2 years old and looking back to even the day he was born realize that he has dealt with the world in a very different way than his siblings did/do.

Since starting school in a public classroom setting we have been more aware of the effects of this disorder and have begun working with the school staff to come up with a plan to help Cristofer to get the most out of his education in a healthy, enjoyable way.

Here are some links to articles and interviews dealing with Asperger’s for anyone who is interested in learning more about this disorder. I have found it actually very facinating and also very helpful in understanding my son and what makes him do and say some of the things that he does. It has given me much more patience and has encouraged me that there are things that I can do to help him learn how to deal with this disorder as he goes through life.

Dr. Fred Volkmar on Aspergers Syndrome.

Michael John Carley on Aspergers.

Some great articles here. I especially liked the one called “The Little Proffessor Syndrome”.

An interview with Dr. Temple Grandin who has autism.

Here is another interesting quote I found in my drafts.

Authority is not the power to control people, and crush them, and keep them in little boxes. The church often tries to do that—to tidy people up. Nor is the Bible as the vehicle of God’s authority meant to be information for the legalist. We have to apply some central reformation insights to the concept of authority itself. It seems to me that the Reformation, once more, did not go quite far enough in this respect, and was always in danger of picking up the medeival view of authority and simply continuing it with, as was often said, a paper pope instead of a human one. Rather, God’s authority vested in scripture is designed, as all God’s authority is designed, to liberate human beings, to judge and condemn evil and sin in the world in order to set people free to be fully human. That’s what God is in the business of doing. That is what his authority is there for. And when we use a shorthand phrase like ‘authority of scripture’ that is what we ought to be meaning. It is an authority with this shape and character, this purpose and goal.

How Can The Bible Be Authoritative? by N.T. Wright

I found this in my draft files. I don’t know why I never posted it. I think it is a great quote.

Here’s a cool quote:

Isn’t it odd that the most compelling argument to know God is the horror of not doing so? I find no such preoccupation in the ministry of Jesus for those who followed him. Certainly he and writers of the New Testament warned us about the destructiveness of sin and the consequences that befall those who neglect his offer of salvation. But he did not use that fear to induce people to follow him. His invitation was to a God who loved them completely and to a kingdom more valuable than anything they had ever known. He didn’t use their fears because he knew that fear was part of the problem, even their fear of God. Though it might be easily manipulated to secure a temporal response, it would never be enough to bring them to the fullness of his Father’s glory.

He Loves Me by Wayne Jacobsen